When I was in college, I dressed up as Wonder Woman for Halloween. It was my favorite costume and became one of my personal icons for many years. It was not until I had kids that I realized my definition of "Wonder Woman" was not possible. I could not do everything on my own. I can still do a lot of things, but if I want to do things well, I need to prioritize and let some things go. Basically, I need to DELEGATE.
This is a continuous learning process for me. I like to do things on my own. I like to be self sufficient. I have a hard time asking for help. But, like I stated above, I can not do the important things well, if I do not ask for help for some of the less critical tasks.
1. Build your community - First you need to build your village of helpers. This could be family, neighbors, mom's club members, church members, etc. They can not only help with tasks, but give you moral support and trusted recommendations. They can help you find a good babysitter, housekeeper or nanny to help with your tasks. Building a network is a two way relationship. You should offer help, support and information to them when you can, as well.
2. Prioritize what can be delegated. First, identify the most important tasks and ones that are important to you to own yourself. For me, that is playing games with my children in the evening, cooking (although it is also one of my biggest stresses) and laundry. Then, identify what are less important tasks that must get done, but that you do not mind if someone else did them. In my home, cleaning the house is at the bottom of my list. I know it needs to get done, but I do not like it and I do not prioritize it when given the choice between cleaning and taking my kids to the zoo. So, that is a task I delegate to professionals. Yes, it is an added expense, but it takes a lot of stress and worry off my mind. Another stress that I am evaluating delegating is meal planning. I am currently trialing eMeals.com so I do not have to think about exactly what I will cook at the beginning of the week.
3. Be Gracious to others. Make sure to thank those that help you. Thank you cards or small gifts (like home made cookies or chocolate) go a long way.
4. Give yourself Grace. Delegating work or tasks does not mean you are a failure or a bad mom. Identifying when you need help is a very important leadership skill. If you look at the best leaders, they surround themselves with experts and skilled people so they do not need to do or know everything.
The process of delegation can also (and should be) applied to your work as well. Take some time to re-evaluate your task list and priorities and identify something NEW to delegate today.
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